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What Should I Bring To a Memorial Service?


When a family loses a loved one, it's traditional to hold a memorial or funeral service so that family members, friends, and acquaintances can come to pay their respects.  The comfort and support of friends and loved ones is important for the healing process.  John Adolf, Director of Adolf Funeral Services, is often asked what guests should bring to a memorial service, and he offers wise advice.

"When you attend a funeral service, I believe the best thing you can bring is simply yourself," Adolf explained.  "Your presence is the most important gift, and it will be cherished by the family of the deceased.  A warm smile and a gentle hug can be a wonderful way to help families begin to heal from their loss."

Some people, however, want to bring something tangible to show their support and express sympathy for the grieving family.  "A memorial contribution to a charity favored by the family is always appreciated," added Adolf.  "Other ways to contribute include bringing a sympathy card, a flower arrangement or a beautiful plant, or a food item for the reception area; these are all important ways to show support."

 Adolf works very closely with families who have just suffered a great loss, and his experiences have helped him understand what families really appreciate from guests at a service.  "I think the phrase "Silence is Golden" can be a thoughtful way to approach the memorial event," he said.  "For the most part, funeral and memorial services bring people together under very unusual circumstances, different than they would otherwise experience in daily life.  As I've said many times, grief can cause people's personalities to change.  Be careful with your choice of words, as they can be interpreted incorrectly when people are experiencing such a devastating and emotional time in their life."  For more information about what to bring to a memorial service, please contact:

Adolf Funeral Home & Cremation Services

John R. Adolf, Director

7000 South Madison Street

Willowbrook, IL 60527


2921 South Harlem Avenue

Berwyn, IL 60402