One of the worst things that can happen to someone in their life is to lose a child. When a child dies, it is excruciatingly painful; it goes against the order of things. Parents just aren't supposed to have a child die first - it should be the other way around. Sadly, children, just like adults, can be the victims of illnesses and accidents, and some do lose their lives. If you know someone who has lost a child, consider offering them comfort in understated ways.
"There is nothing anyone can say that will ease the pain of losing a child," said John Adolf, Director of Adolf Funeral Services. "There is no one who can understand the immense loss the parents are having to endure. One of the best ways for family and friends to provide comfort is to simply be there for the parents. Your presence and a warm embrace will help give them the feeling that everything will be all right."
It can be difficult to know what to say to someone who has lost a child. "When people speak to someone who has experienced a tragic circumstance like the loss of a child, I don't believe the person really hears all the words being said to them," added Adolf. "Be very careful with your choice of words. Stressful times like this can easily make a parent misunderstand or misinterpret what you actually mean to say. I have always felt that at times like this, the less spoken, the better. This is a time when you will learn more, and offer more comfort, by listening than by talking."
Someone who has lost a child may be unable to perform certain tasks in the early days following the loss. Offer to help take care of their other children, to walk and feed their pets, to bring meals or do grocery shopping, or to help with laundry.
For more information, please contact:
Adolf Funeral Home & Cremation Services
John R. Adolf, Director
7000 South Madison Street
Willowbrook, IL 60527
2921 South Harlem Avenue
Berwyn, IL 60402