The need to provide meaningful education on the dangers of underage drinking and drug use here in Lyons Township has never been greater. A few facts help to highlight that need:
• Alcohol and drugs are the leading factors in teenage suicide.
• More than 23 million people over the age of 12 are addicted to alcohol and other drugs.
Young people, like adults, drink alcohol for many different reasons. Some of the reasons may seem obvious, but understanding the feelings behind these reasons – as well as how everyday teen life comes into play – can be difficult.
Young people often drink to check out from family problems or issues with school and grades. Loneliness, low self-esteem, depression, anxiety disorder and other mental health issues can contribute. They may drink to deal with the pressures of everyday social situations, to change their image or to fit in when moving to a new school or town, or to gain confidence or lose inhibitions.
As kids get older and alcohol and drugs enter the picture, parents are faced with a unique set of challenges. Parents often forgive underage drinking as a “rite of passage.” They can simply sit back and hope their kids will “get through it.” Parents can and should change their attitude and take an active role in learning about alcohol and drugs – and help their kids to do the same.
It is important to take advantage of “teachable moments” when parents and other adults can help kids learn about underage drinking and drug use. It’s more than having “the big talk” one time but about being there for them when the issues come up – on TV, at the movies or on the radio, about celebrities or sports figures, or about their friends.
According to the National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence, here are some guidelines that can help parents talk about alcohol and drug use:
Listen before you talk: For kids, knowing that someone is really listening is most important. Ask open-ended questions. Be involved. Be honest and open. Be positive: Talking about these issues can build bridges rather than walls. And remember, addiction is a chronic, progressive disease that can be linked to family history and genetics. So, if there is a family history of problems, be matter of fact about it, as one would be with any other chronic disease, such as heart disease, diabetes or cancer.
“Alcohol and drug use is a very risky business for young people, and parents can make a difference," says Andrew Pucher, president and chief executive officer of the National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence. "The longer children delay drinking and drug use, the less likely they are to develop problems associated with it. That’s why it is so important to help your child make smart decisions about alcohol and drug use.”
In fostering “changing attitudes,” parents can help kids understand that drinking isn’t a “rite of passage.” It’s not a way to feel or be independent or “cool” or to fit in socially. Young people can learn that alcohol is not necessary for having a good time. Non-use of alcohol is a healthy and viable option, and we can learn to respect another person’s decision not to drink alcohol.
Additionally, I urge local businesses, community organizations, colleges, schools, administrators and government agencies to get involved in these activities. It can make a tremendous difference in our community as we reach out to those who are most vulnerable and help our next generation avoid the many problems that underage alcohol and drug use can bring.
Cynthia Frymark is president of Coalition for a Drug Free Lyons Township.